MEN IN SINGAPORE GOING ON MARRIAGE BOYCOTT
I read the news that the marriage rate in Singapore has just dropped to another new historical low point and I am not at all surprised.
Men in Singapore nowadays are much more educated and knowledgeable than the men of the past and many men have finally realized that marriage is really a very very bad deal for men .
Why have men in Singapore gone on a marriage boycott??
Ok,let us first discuss about the marriage laws like the women's charter to see why men are boycotting marriage.
1)The women's charter makes it obligatory for a husband to maintain his wife and children during marriage and after divorce.
This section does not seem to have a problem except for the later part of the sentence because it says that even after a divorce,the man must still continue to spend money to support his ex wife.
In other words the ex wife has no more obligations towards the husband but the husband must still continue to support the ex wife even if she does not love him any more and even if they have already become enemies and even if she already has a new boyfriend or lover ,as long as she does not remarry, the husband must continue to spend money to support his ex wife until the day she goes into her grave or until he dies.
Even if the marriage last for only a few short years,if the ex wife lives for another 80 years without remarrying ,then the husband must still spend money for the next 80 years to support his ex wife.
And the crazy thing about this section of the women's charter is that it assumes that the husband is the one making more money because instead of saying the one who is earning more should support the ex spouse,the women's charter's states only that the husband should support the ex wife and not the other way round.
It is as though the writer of the women's charter has already assumed that the husband is better off financially than the ex wife,which may not always be true
Even if the husband earns $500 per month while the ex wife makes $50,000 per month that husband earning $500 per month must still spend money from his miserable $500 to support his ex wife who earns $50,000 per month.
Where is the logic and justice for such a gender biased lop sided law??
So,do you think this kind of law is fair or not??
No wonder the younger generation of men are not keen to marry and not keen to get themselves subjected to such a ridiculously unfair and lopsided gender biased law.
I would suggest abolishing this section of the women's charter completely.Why should someone who is already divorced still continue to spend money to support the ex spouse that has already left him??
This section of the women's charter seems ridiculous .When the couple separate they should both just go their own way and not be subjected to any more obligations towards each other.
2)Subject to the provisions of this Act, all property which
after 15th September 1961 is acquired by or devolves upon a married woman,
shall belong to her in all respects as if she were a feme sole and may be disposed of accordingly.
This section of the women's charter seems to imply that property which belongs to the wife before marriage will still be hers and hers alone since she is treated as though she was still a single after the marriage as far as her property was concerned .
The strange thing is that there was no mention that property that belongs to the man before marriage shall still belong to him and him alone.
So reading through this section of the women's charter ,it seems to imply that what is hers before marriage still belong to her after marriage but what is his before marriage may not necessarily still belong to him alone after marriage.There is no mention on how the property that he has before marriage will be treated like so the women's charter is not clear here regarding this issue.
So if you are quite a wealthy guy,this section of the women's charter might make you put off marriage since the law here seems to be grossly biased and terribly unfair towards the men
Obviously many men after seeing this section of the women's charter might decide that marriage is too financially risky and so it is best to forever remain single.
This section of the women's charter should be amended to become gender neutral,other wise the government can forget about ever reversing the continued drop in the marriage rate.
3)Court may order maintenance of wife and children
Any married woman whose husband neglects or refuses to provide her reasonable maintenance may apply to a District Court or a Magistrate’s Court and that Court may, on due proof thereof, order the husband to pay a monthly allowance or a lump sum for her maintenance.
Here again the women's charter assumes without any proof at all , that the husband is financially better off than the wife which may not be true because women in Singapore save 2 years of their working life due to the men having to go through military National Service.
Why order the husband to support the wife and not the other way round??
I thought the law to be fair ,should ask the one that is better off financially to help the other one that is less better off financially .
How can the women's charter keep making baseless assumptions that the men are better off financially because that is not necessarily true??
In the situation today in Singapore , most women make more money than men of the same age due to that 2 years that men lost due to NS.
No wonder many young men in Singapore are really fed up with the unjust women's charter and decided to boycott marriage
You want to know who are the biggest culprits for this messy state of affair in Singapore??
Don't blame the men.And don't blame the women
Obviously the people most responsible for this marriage boycott are the group of people who have the power to amend the gender biased and unjust women's charter, to make it gender neutral but unfortunately so far I don't see those law makers making a move to make it more gender neutral.I only see them making the women's charter more and more unfair to men so expect the marriage rate to keep plunging non stop until the country is in deep crisis mode.
Perhaps we may need the marriage rate to drop to such a low level before these people wakes up to the dangers facing this country.
4) Regarding divorce the court, when ordering maintenance for a wife or child under this section, shall have regard to all the circumstances of the case including the following matters:
(a) the financial needs of the wife or child;
(b) the income, earning capacity (if any), property and other financial resources of the wife or child;
Notice that the women's charter keeps talking about the needs of the ex wife while completely ignoring the needs and welfare of the husband.It is as though the husband is a non human whose needs and welfare are completely disregarded
The women's charter talks about the financial needs of the ex wife and the earning capacity of the ex wife while completely ignoring about what the husband needs.
Is it any wonder then,that young men in Singapore today do not feel that marriage is secure for them??
In fact many young men nowadays feel that marriage is a trap set for them,waiting for them to fall into and to regret later
5) Regarding divorce the court, when ordering maintenance for a wife or child under this section, shall have regard to all the circumstances of the case including the following matters:
(c) any physical or mental disability of the wife or child;
Notice that the women's charter only mentioned about the physical or mental state of the wife and never mentions anything about the physical and mental state of the husband and don't seem to be concerned at all about the welfare and well being of the men.
It is as though the men are treated as non humans under the women's charter so no wonder men are now opening their eyes to the very unjust marriage laws and no longer foolishly rushing into marriage
6) Regarding divorce the court, when ordering maintenance for a wife or child under this section, shall have regard to all the circumstances of the case including the following matters:
(e) the contributions made by each of the parties to the marriage to the welfare of the family, including any contribution made by looking after the home or caring for the family;
That section regarding looking after the home is usually problematic when it comes to implementation because the assumptions by the courts is usually that the woman is the one looking after the home when it might not be true .
For more well to do families the one looking after the home is usually the maid or maids and not the wife.So I wished the courts would just stop giving credit to the wrong person (wife) .
If the family has a maid or has maids to look after the home,then don't give all the credit to the wife and use that as an excuse to extract a large amount of maintenance money
7) Regarding divorce the court, when ordering maintenance for a wife or child under this section, shall have regard to all the circumstances of the case including the following matters:
(f) the standard of living enjoyed by the wife or child before the husband or parent, as the case may be, neglected or refused to provide reasonable maintenance for the wife or child;
This section of the women's charter really makes no sense.It tells you that the better you treat your wife or the more you pamper her during the marriage then the higher the maintenance money you need to pay her if you both divorce in future.
Some men who treat their ex wives very well or who really pamper their ex wives during their marriage but who have fallen into hard times, find themselves being asked to pay a huge amount of money that bites of a huge chunk of their monthly salary after their divorce.
Whenever news comes out of men who have to pay a huge maintenance to their ex wives in a divorce,the number of men who read the news and resolve to stay single increase even more
,which in turn cause the already low marriage rate to fall even furthur.
Hey,government of Singapore,if you want the marriage rate to move up,the solution is so simple.
Just amend the women's charter and make it gender neutral such that no mention is made of the male or female spouse.
There should not be different treatment by the law just because of differences in the gender.
The women's charter need to treat men and women equally.Only then will men see that there is finally justice and fairness in the Institution of marriage and only then will the marriage rate turn around from it's historical low.
Whether the marriage rate can reverse and turn up depends mainly on the men and not the women.
Men are usually the ones who propose to women or open up the issue of marriage so if the men feel that marriage is a really bad deal for them and so the men refused to propose to the women or to even discuss about the issue of marriage,what do the women do??
The women of course continue to wait year after year but the men never ever pops the marriage proposal and the women wonder why he is never ever going to propose.
So who is responsible for the horribly low marriage rate and the horribly low baby birth rate that Singapore is in today??
Of course the people most responsible are those who have made the women's charter as well as those who have amended the women's charter through the years to make it more and more unjust for men,so much so that most men today in Singapore are not keen to marry any more.
Men in Singapore have gone on a permanent marriage strike and this strike will never ever end as long as the women's charter is not amended to become gender neutral or fair and just to men.
The hope for a turn around in this country's declining marriage rate depends only on the present law makers.Will they be couragous and make amendments to the women's charter to make it just and fair and gender neutral for men and hence end the marriage strike of men in Singapore??
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